Of friends
Wednesday, October 31st, 2007To all my friends who touched my heart
I came across an article that read ;
The friends you make in college, would probably be the ones you keep forever.
I couldn’t agree more.
The article said that there are two phases of friendship or relationship. There’s the interest phase where something about a person has peaked your interest. Then there’s the bonding phase.
For me, I felt that my matrix college and uni years were where true bonding happened. Back in Malacca, seven years ago, friends were made quickly in the interest phase as everything was new, exciting and of course everyone needed somebody to relate to. It wasn’t something that any of us did consciously. We simply shared our lives together for those two years. We shared food, challenges, disagreements, disappointments, betrayals yet when all was said and done, we were still holding on to one another. Maybe it was because we needed a family unit since we were all hundreds of miles from home. I made many friends in that phase, even developed best friends that shared my everyday ramblings, secrets, fears and what not. Through all the above, some of us bonded, or to put quite simply, ‘clicked’.
During my four years of Uni, I made even more friends while still trying to keep in touch with the matrix buddies that went to various colleges and Unis. Some of them just simply vanished from sight and never crossed my path again. I’m still wondering where you all are? The real mature friendship probably started in Uni, where deeper sharing, disagreements and soul-searching developed. Through this time I found out what real friends, fake friends, friend in need, friend indeed were and made different categories of friends; friends in lab, friends that walks with you to the lecture hall, friends you have lunch with or friends you borrow lecture notes from.
D-2-1 Kurnia Perdana 2000 - 2002. Donna should’ve been here
My Uni housemates were really something and my matrix friends are awesome. I wouldn’t trade anything to replace the memories we shared. With them I’ve passed the interest phase and can be truly myself. And though it’s been engagements, marriages, children, new job, relocation, new boyfriends, break - ups and a lifetime of experiences in-between, there is that knowing, that trusting, that safe place that my heart rests in.
Lieyza,she taught me how to cook terung sambal,ayam kunyitand Kuih Batik. A mummy-to-be!
It’s just strange when months pass on without seeing or talking to them, and when w e did, it all felt the same, just like how it was before. We laughed, goofed around, talked about our college and Uni nuisances, gossips, crushes and caught up with what was new with each other. It was truly liberating and made me all warm and fuzzy inside.
I might not have millions of friends now, but am happy to know that I have bonded with a few that I will hopefully, keep forever.
